I’ve never really subscribed to the idea that your wedding day should be or is "the best day of your life". I don’t believe in the concept of a "best day of your life". Because if you gave me the opportunity to relive the "best day of my life" or my wedding day over and over again - I wouldn’t take it. I prefer to refer to periods of time and reflect in that way… like "summer 2023 was a special time" or "winter 2025 was difficult", but even with the difficult times I’m lucky that I can mostly or usually tune into gratitude. It’s never too far away from me and that’s a privilege. Placing my wedding day as "the best day of my life" for me brings more feelings of sadness than happiness. If that gets top spot then what about all the days left to come… should it all be down hill from here?

In the lead up to our wedding, multiple people warned me about post-wedding blues. So much so, it was getting kind of annoying - like at least let me enjoy the lead up and the day without the anxiety of what happens next. The concept of post-wedding blues wasn’t new to me… I think I’m somebody who’s pretty anticipatory of feelings that may arise around certain moments in life. I’m fortunate to be immersed in conversations and content surrounding these sorts of topics, through my education, career and personal interests. I’m also somebody who hasn’t always lived happily. I’ve felt, suppressed, felt again more deeply and healed from sadness, anger and fear before. I know that life ebbs and flows and for me, the best way to deal with those ebbs is to welcome them. I think it’s a beautiful thing that I get to experience life through a range of emotions and perspectives. It’s why I tune into the rain, the sun or the clouds - the variety of life is what makes it special for me. 

I describe my wedding day as a very magical day… that’s how it felt; magical. It exceeded all expectations - the day flowed with ease and was filled with love and joy. So it will take a spot as a "very magical day", but intentionally not "the best day of my life". 

The blues haven’t quite hit me yet… but I did have a feeling of needing to hide my wedding shoes as they were staring at me as a constant reminder like "don’t forget about me oh and don’t forget about that day - the best day of your life - the one you’ll never get to live again but just have objects, pictures and videos from it to remind you of how amazing it was and that nothing will ever live up to it". So I guess I have been hit a bit… but I’ve had a good word with myself and the shoes and we’re friends again now. 

But if the blues do come, I welcome them… I welcome the call to recognise and reminisce a very magical day in my life during a very magical period but I’m intentional about recognising there are definitely more to come.